|Comic Credit: xkcd|
I say this a lot. Maybe too much. It precedes many of my sentence structures, along with "I'm not gonna lie..." If there was a list of cliche Joel phrases (who would waste their time compiling that?), this would be in the top ten.
It's one of those phrases that typically precedes the sharing of something rather difficult or heartfelt. It's a clarifying statement, a caution light that indicates the conversation might be moving out of the shallow end of the pool and into something deeper. It comes out of me without much thought, almost like a personalized version of "um" or "so..."
I was recently reading in Matthew 5 about oaths and promises. Jesus didn't seem to be a fan of them, and makes a profound statement in verse 37:
All you need to say is simply ‘Yes’ or ‘No’His little brother, James, repeats this command in James 5:12.
I shouldn't need a clarifying statement or disclaimer about the veracity of my words. They should always be honest, always tell the truth, always be authentic and uplifting. I want to be the kind of person that can be taken at their word because the content of my actions matches the content of my speech.
One of my personal values is to communicate the truth:
No lies, no insincerity, no b.s., and no deception. I will communicate clearly, honestly, and succinctly. I'll pursue authenticity, vulnerability, and self-awareness in all circumstances and relationships, especially with my wife and children. Ultimately, Truth is the reality found in Christ.So, I'll be honest. Period. Hold me to it.